he stopped giving me attention

Where Im at in my life, after 5 years, if Im not a fianc, Im gone. The fact that you can recognize how unhealthy his argument style is, but he cant, means youre a mismatch. We have a 12 year old daughter. I met my boyfriend this summer (July) through my bestfriend and I met him through snap (he was 18 and he doesnt go to school and I am a junior in highschool. He wanted to hang out everyday which at first I though was strange but I started to so after while it was weird for both of us to not be around each other every day. Misery loves company, I guess, because I am so damn happy to know that someone else is suffering the same as me and now I dont feel just so alone. I been communicating with him about his lack of effort , no improvement. I try to sit and talk about things and he rejects or belittles my input. I cant help but feel like he doesnt care as much about me as he used to, as we used to spend more time together before when I was more prioritized. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months already and up until this day, he is literally showing no effort in our relationship. Well, a few weeks have gone by and the love languages and arguing and overall communication has been better. He comes to stay here but thats it really. Also his mum is very protective of him and has him wrapped around his finger, when she wants him home he goes which is very frustrating for me. I just want to feel special!! Or stay here and break up. Theres little to no effort. Thats why I feel like I need to leave. Any advice please? I then left home and came back a later day. He begrudgingly paid the initial payment of $600 but was pissed because he expected me to spend my winter break, the first break Ive had for myself since before my mom got diagnosed with cancer on 2020, working full time to save up the $1800 tuition. Never happened. Weve been together for over a year but known each other for 8 and its a first serious relationship for both of us. Girl, thats not fair to you. Feel so down on a Friday night. He hasnt asked me out or made an effort to spend anytime with me for 4 weekends in a row. I dont feel that he supports me in my decisions on things. Its been almost 2 yrs with him and I hot him gifts ( handmade thoughtful gift and a tshirt) he hot me nothing for my bday. he is the most amazing boyfriend i have ever had or so it was a little while ago. I thought after he quit his job he would have no excuse, but now he just puts even more time into video games. NO PHONE CALL. I dont know what to do or how to feel.. Im trying to figure out if its his depression thats making him stress to make more money as well as not doing anyrhjng for me or the home we live in, or if he truly doesnt care for me or my feelings and Im just here for the mean time to do things for him? Then you explain and get everything fyn between you then after like two weeks he will he will give attitude again from no where five minutes he texts with love the other minutes he will text as if he doesnt care . This sounds like a mentally and abusive situation. Day after, he went for work in other city and stayed there for 3months. I envisioned a life time ahead of feeling let down by this person. Or also he went out and was feeling confused about the relationship where he didnt come home therefore he ended things in the morning after having a long night prob thinking about it. Lately, it feels like we fight all the time. [1] The key to solving any problem is understanding the underlying cause. This is exactly me, I always feel stupid for caring more, its like the bane of my existence. Either speak up about these things or get out of that relationship. He said that the only thing I require of him is to give me attention. It may be time to reassess your relationship. my bf and i are long distance. Everything now has become a tit-for-tat pissing match competition for control and autonomy. he told me he loved me which he hasnt said in a week 1/2 i was shocked.. he acted normal but careless. We may have jumped into it a little fast but we knew each other so well and things were going great. Is like he is taking his frustration with having no control at work out on me. Hi, I have a very similar situation to yours. I know how hard it is to let go, but I think you have to. He has learning and growing to do. For our year and a half anniversary I didnt have money at the time and we were fighting a lot but I made him a good luck bracelet and wrote him a very personal card. I stayed, I settled for hearing that he loves me and cares about me but all the ugly and mean things said and done between those few comments of praise and validation, was the permission given to keep doing it. Everything about him was so private I have no idea what he does. My BF is of course devastated and angry. Hes an atheist, and slowly his mocking of God and Christianity began to affect my own believes. I dont do things just to expect it in return but you just want reassurance that youre appreciated. But he say he is not in happy After this all, at some point he started to chnge himself. Is Your Boyfriend's Mother Ruining Your Relationship? Its not that those things arent wonderful, its just that I. I tried talking to him about it and he was very dismissive with just an okay, I have been dating my boyfriend for over 3years now but he hasnt prioritized me..his family always comes first, whereas i do the most work, im there for him emotionally, physically financially sometimesbut I always come last on his list he is a good guy and he respects me and all but im jst tired cos he doesnt spend on me.Then i met another guy who will give me his eyeballs as soon as i ask for them but he is very disrespectful and selfish wen it comes to my feelings.. he is always the right one.. if I complain of being ignored till his convenience he jst ignores me some more and comes back to say Im sorry babe i love you and thats it..I really dont know what to do.. please help me. hi so ive been with my bf for 4 years and at first ofc it was all great but after 2 years he jst stopped putting in effort and when i ask him to, he makes it seems like its such a chore. The Best Way To Get His Attention Is To Stop Giving Him Yours By Ossiana Tepfenhart Written on Jun 16, 2020 Photo: getty One of my exes was notorious for his What started as my dream sex life is now I am lucky if we do it once a month and it is usually on his terms, NOT when *I* am in the mood, planned and boring and routine. I dont quite think he is a narcissist, because he does have a heart and I have seen him show compassion; however he is very proud and self-absorbed. He Is Bored. You cant change how he acts toward youyou can only change your expectations. Anyway not sure what to do either but it helps to know Im not the only one. Thats the one thing that i really expect. So Im telling myself to just treat him like an acquaintance and move on with my life, but still find myself getting triggered on the daily by this baffling behavior. But when it comes to his business he always asks for my help and Im always putting things aside to help him. There is little to no effort from my boyfriend and every time I try to communicate that with him nothing changes. First I asked him if we could level up our relationship through meeting his and my family. He had a past and opened up to me about it and we were just a rlly good couple. Id rather focus my energy on someone who can! Yep. They may not come true. See why its so important for you to know your boyfriend and know yourself before deciding what to do when he doesnt make an effort? It confuses us because we know the love ie there. Is it too much to expect from a boyfriend to ask out his girlfriend one a month? You deserve so much more. When I spoke to Lisa, his wife, she said was fed up with the lack of affection she felt she Idk I really love him hes the first person thats ever given my butterflies or made me actually feel anything, but I just feel like its all changed now maybe and Im not sure how to continue. Romantic. After being ignored all week he told me he was going on a boys trip, except he failed to mention he was already on the road out of town. June 2019 meet my boyfriend, July 2020 get fire from a 2 year job, November 2020 get fired from 3 month job and currently still unemployed. He tells me I could come over to his familys Thanksgiving, but only after everyone has left and only for leftovers (aka forgo my Thanksgiving dinner with my family and eat reheated sides). Hopefully, these reasons will let you know the answer if you are wondering why did he stop talking to me. Its like you are not even there. I was in a similar situation when I was in college. My issue lately is, he will tell me he will come to my house on Saturday after work, then later he will call and say he has to go get his dogs and pick them up. We decided to move in together shortly after COVID began so I worked things out with my work and moved to his state. I HAVE COMPLAINED ABOUT IT IN THE PAST, AND HE JUST SAYS THIS IS WHAT IT IS. If you do his laundry, stop. Should I stay? When your message doesnt have a question mark in it, he might not realize that youre waiting for a reply. Things are getting better as we learn about his condition and learn the tools to manage conflicts between us. He works a lot sometimes so I understand he is tired, but he always wants me to come over his house. We met online and in a long distance relationship and we have not met in person. What you talk about really does depend on the issues youre facing, how long youve been together, and why your boyfriend isnt making an effort in your relationship. I dont expect a perfect relationship but I guess he does. Like we will be having a nice time and something sets him off and he just spirals. Still, surprises still pop up often enough to keep you on your toes. Sadly, he doesnt ask questions about me, my life before. Advice? Were both in college and when we started dating we were together all the time, we went out together with friends, we watched movies, etc. But if you have no idea why your boyfriend stopped making an effort in your relationship, talk to him. i would say hes a selfish person because all he cares is himself. He has been better now and takes time to analyze his intention before he says more. We dont even have a date on when we decided to be together. I thought hed at least try to make a plan. Just stop talking to him and stop making so much effort. He stopped initiating sex and one day i found saved Google image searches under very specific terms saved on his phone and realized why i wasnt getting laid anymore. I feel like my house is just a hotel and he pays his family for meals but doesnt give me a dime. we havent dated for long (~3.5 months) so i could be overreacting, but at the same time, im tired of the lack of effort on his end. 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