husband wants to spend every weekend with his family

I consider myself to have a pretty close relationship with my own family, but they live in another state, and I really dont require seeing them more than once every 6 weeks or even being in touch more than every couple of days. I am extremely close to my family, I talk to them for the most part at least once a day. It is clear that his family comes first, and your family and your wishes are less important to him. January 20, 2012, 11:43 am. I think the LW is saying shes being guilted, by the parents and the boyfriend. ReginaRey But I dont automatically think that they have some huge communication problem because of this one issue. Yet another letter from a LW who has the perfect boyfriend EXCEPT for one small, oh, you know, majorly epic, MASSIVE tiny thing she wants changed. 15 signs he doesnt want to spend time with you 1) Hes always busy Granted, most people are busy these days. They were dating, they were both happy, so I think they both assumed that thinks will be the same once they move in together. Look at the situation from everyones position. His lack of action in making his partner a top priority in his life because he prefers spending time with his parents is abnormal. Perhaps if something was planned, hed break his routine, and realize that it is fun sometimes to stay in the city. And the rest of my family in US get together almost every weekend as well. But it doesnt sound like its fine for the boyfriend. For the first two months we dated, hed go and see his mom for an hour or two during the weekend, because I lived in the same town as she did and as my parents did. I wonder if part of this is having to share your time with someone else. Doesnt he want her to be happy, or is his happiness all he really cares about? There are no steadfast rules when it comes to spending time with extended family. Then you may just be spending too much time together. If I say Im ready to get home on one of those nights, his dad always makes a comment trying to make me feel guilty for leaving even if weve spent the entire day there. In a healthy child/parent relationship, the cord needs to be cut before the child can become an adult and have his own family. And please, do not take that literally, I just couldnt come up with a better one. I dont know how to handle a situation that hasnt happened yet. I have friends who are engaged and live together. seems a little quick to be so worried to me, considering the time of year. Haha. Say, what if I only come to your parents one weekend a month, and you only go 2-3? That way you get some weekend time alone with him and you only go over there once a month. I think you are already there, and having a great relationship *except for this one huge thing I want to change about that person* isnt the same as simply have a great relationship. Hed schedule one weekend a year when his best friends came to his town to party. Theyre lovely people, but I cant seem to get my boyfriend to understand that I dont want to spend weekend nights at their place more often than maybe once a month, even if we dont have anything else planned. Share that with your boyfriend as well. Growing up, we went over to our grandparents almost every Sunday. All Im saying is, neither ways are wrong. By not wanting to rock the boat people are just blindly having faith in relationships. I cant imagine that life! Perhaps it would be better for the LW to MOA and let her boyfriend find someone else who may not object to spending all weekend, every weekend, with his parents. What are the main reasons why he behaves like that: A guilty conscience makes your husband go to his family every weekend. Exactly! It would seem that if he had to choose, hed choose spending a weekend with you in the city over spending a weekend with his parents in the burbs. CottonTheCuteDog June 18, 2014, 9:55 am. Geocaching!!!! You are still in the early days of this relationship so make sure you are upfront with your expectations. You even noticed thatyour husband wants to visit his family without you. I agree with the expenses. Follow along on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. My boyfriend goes to his mom and dads every weekend doesnt think me or my children with him he used to text me all the time and call me he doesnt do that anymore weve been together 3 years and there any place he ever takes me is to the grocery store and back home and he doesnt even hardly touch or kiss or anything anymore I tell him I love him all the time hell tell me back but I feel that he just tells me because he doesnt want it to hurt me. June 18, 2014, 10:17 am. In my experience, if you manage to schedule some quality couple time whatever activity counts as that for you every weekend, youre likely to care much less about visiting the in-laws etc. GatorGirl Im not sure how much leverage she has with the parents. Our compromise (when we lived closer, now we live about 6 hours away) was that we would see my family for dinner once a month and that I could go over other times but that he preferred to stay home. Theyre always around and we dont get to do stuff together anymore. Or he needs to retire to a place where he can enjoy just the feeling of solitary. I try to suggest fun things to do but its as if he doesnt feel like doing them. . I get that many dont, but I dont think thats dysfunctional. and cant get out much, so Drew has dinner with him every week. June 18, 2014, 11:51 am. June 18, 2014, 12:24 pm. No, spending 1 or 2 weekends with the parents or your boyfriends isnt that many, but it is, if you dont get to see your boyfriend at all in between these times. Link AnneJune 18, 2014, 10:20 am She doesnt mention doing it with him at all. You say you cant get your boyfriend to understand that you dont want to spend every weekend with his parents. January 20, 2012, 9:10 am. This can also be a consequence ifhis parents are selfishand manipulate him into feeling bad because he doesnt see them enough. It is starting to really upset me he wants me to move the 30 min ride closer to his family for what ? I would totally be cool with buying a compound and having my family and Peters family live on it in harmony with us. allathian They just enjoy your and your boyfriends company and would be happy, it sounds like, if you never left. Some people are just family people, and want to spend a TON of time with their parents/siblings/etc. Living with your boyfriend can be the greatest thing, but it can also be a ticking time bomb if you let things go unresolved, especially after only dating for four months. If he goes to see his parents every single weekend while his gf, who has made it clear she will only go with him once a month, stays home, he is essentially choosing them over. LW has already talked to bf and this hasnt worked. But the way you split the total cost of living should be established before you decide to move in together. No he actually does not spent 80% of time at his parents. On the weekends he spends at But, guilting someone is wrong and there is a little of that going on here. Explain to your husband that you want to spend time with him on the weekend, not always with his parents. This is for your husband to do, but you have to let him know. January 20, 2012, 11:45 am. The oldest brother, who worked in Belgium a few hours away (and had a nice apartment there) would always, always take the train home as soon as work finished on Friday. But I have too much shit to do at work today so Ill spare everyone my tangent. Also, the ex use to work on a project, like something with his old truck or building something, or whatever, and I would sit outside by him and read, which is something I enjoyed doing. Thats why he wants to help them all the time and probably helps them with various jobs every weekend. I would focus on how you miss spending time just the two of you, exploring the city, going to your favorite restaurants, etc. but you have to talk to him about it. You cant. While there is nothing wrong with being close with your family, it becomes a problem when you prioritize your family of origin over your significant other. June 18, 2014, 12:47 pm. But I think what struck me is how little they seemed to have discuss things social preferences, money, etc. WebHis wife is his family now and she should be his first priority. If I ask him if we can just stay home for the weekend, he will agree but then he will also make me feel like the bad guy for it, and he doesnt understand why its a big deal to go there instead of sitting at home. Communication is always the basis of solving any problem. Parents are supposed to prepare their kids for the real world, the best that they can. Hey, were in 100% agreement today, as opposed to 80%. He even startedtalking badly about your family, and you feel he wants to distance you from them. But, youre not single now. You can even switch off on who decides on what you two do in the city. January 4, 2021, 3:35 am. January 20, 2012, 10:50 am. No one I know can read minds, I have no idea why LW thinks her boyfriend can. Self-reflection should always come first when we want to repair relationships with others, especially important people. They made mistakes and making mistakes and taking risks is what being an adult is all about. Dont settle for an interaction that feels stifling, or youll be dealing with a bigger issue when the parents pass away. If the moms just dropping by it cant be *that* far away. I agree something seems off here, because they have lived together ALMOST THREE weeks, and go to his parents house NEARLY every weekend, but only since they have lived together. I think of it as the I got you phenomenon. Thats on you. I live a minute from my mom and 3 from his. It doesnt have to be the way you make it out to be though. allathian I would blow my brains out if I were with someone who needed to do something every single weekend all weekend long, even if it were just go to a friend or family members house. Its when a relationship switches from the wooing phase to the were together phase. We have a great relationship and I dont want this issue to grow into such a large issue that I cant handle it anymore one day. Not only is it a long commute to my boyfriends familys place, but its also starting to get expensive paying for the commuter train both ways (we split expenses pretty evenly even though I make significantly less). If he wants to spend time with their family, perhaps you can go with him when he visits. This isnt a minor trait that you can ask someone to change for you, like throwing away your toenail clippings instead of leaving them on the floor. He is an adult & his main focus should be on his relationship. I could say that he can go by himself for these things, but I want the weekends for quality couple time since we both have pretty demanding jobs during the week. Declining to go really shouldnt require an explanation, but if he really needs one just say its a combination of the expense, that youve seen them more often than your own parents, and that you simply have other things you want to do this weekend. So many people spend a ton of time with family. I dont know how to handle a situation that hasnt happened yet. everyone just has a different approach to their relationship. Lets find out why he behaves like that and offer tips on what you should do. Long story short even though we saw each other almost every weekend for 4.5 straight years, not once did he agree to this. Maybe if you stop going every single time hell decide to stay home with you every now and then. Im nearly at my wits end because its causing me to get upset with him over fairly trivial things. His family is about a 3 hour drive away from us while mine Its usually fine with me, but I think if you are the type to not be ok with this, youre better off finding someone more like you in this regard. He works a road construction job that requires him to be gone every week during the summer/fall months, coming home only some weekends. Visiting families and spending time with siblings takes up much time in a marriage. and second, maybe have a date night once a weekend or something like that, where you dont have the stress of work/school to think about for the next day. And there are always occasions forfamily gatherings. That was my first thought. If you care about your husband, you should not try to distance him from his parents. If hes home for only Friday and Saturday night and has to leave Sunday afternoon, you can bet we are at their house both Friday and Saturday for a long time, and then they always show up an hour before hes to leave on Sunday. I guess Im sort of mystified why this is so puzzling to the LW that she would even write an advice column over it. I purposely do this so hell not do the same with me. Its not a matter of never visiting his parents, but of not visiting every weekend. I agree. WebTherefore, his wife IS attending family functions on the weekends. If it is that then work out a way so you can spend most nights together whether at yours or theirs. This is especially important ifhis parents dont respect boundaries. June 18, 2014, 10:08 am. It certainly wasnt for me or any of my friends when they took the next step. So the last month theyve seen his family every weekend? I know many families like this. June 18, 2014, 10:47 am. The evening must be spent together as well? The only way that this would be acceptable is if his wife is fine with this arrangement and she enjoys having quiet time to herself. January 20, 2012, 11:17 am. June 18, 2014, 10:47 am. Yes, this. Anonymousse June 18, 2014, 12:46 pm. If you have something like, oh, I dont know, a skydiving excursion planned on, say, a Saturday afternoon that hes home, and maybe a float trip on Sunday morning before he leaves, that leaves just a small amount of time for him to see his parents enough for a short visit, but not so much that youre spending 80% of the weekend with them. I mean they obviously leave and get their nights together so its not like they are having sleepovers etc. Who keeps the dog? You could always lighten the mood a little by telling them you need time together to practice making their future grandkids. Then offer a compromise. There is also his room, just as it was when he lived there. also, go on Pinterest and put in cheap date ideas. Tests are incredibly unfair to your partner, because they deserve a chance to hear what you really want and you deserve a chance to hear what they want. Its just that based on textbooks and the definition of words and so on, yes sometimes things will be labeled as normal or dysfunctional. June 18, 2014, 12:41 pm. Its different than what youre used to, sure, and its maybe not something you would do yourself. Find a free movie or concert in the park, those seem to be like everywhere. Dysfunctional that he wants to spend time (a lot, Ill give you that) with his family? Its a worldwide treasure hunt. a lot of people just arent that way. , And BGM made the point also that except for what seems like an obvious dealbreaker to most people, they have a wonderful, amazing, great relationship. New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Let your boyfriend stay at his parents longer and do something else in the meantime. She simply doesnt have to be at the parents place with her boyfriend that often. They could deny it, and if they wanted to change, they could. We will tell you right away that this way of thinking leads nowhere. Yeah I dont understand what is weird about just talking about it. Come on, BGM! Although that is a great idea, unfortunately, those plans arent going to work for me as my boyfriend likes to tag along his parents whenever he goes on trips. Is it because the LWs own lease was up? I hate to say it, but I dont think your boyfriend or his parents (especially his parents) are going to change. My husband and I will go to a public driving range and a large bucket is $9. He loves to spend time with his family, and that is not a bad thing. You accept him as he is or you leave. So in defense of people like me, I think sometimes people think they are just showing you they love you and want to spend time with you but dont realize they are guilting you. muchachaenlaventana LW I would advise you not to make it seem like you are asking your boyfriend to choose either you or his family. Parents get old and die. It is not wrong to Want to spend time with loved ones, but as an adult you ought to be fair and accommodating of your partner and potential kids. January 4, 2021, 3:30 am. The LW and her fellow need to figure out a game plan together, she should be honest about her needs rather than her annoyance. Easily worked out and if not, then you probably have bigger issues than the garbage. i really disliked him. So much fun and you find really cool new spots to hang out too. remember, its only been 3 weeks since you moved in. This may seem obvious, but its so easy to forget and feel bad. The finance issue, however, would bother me more at this point. OR maybe he makes more money than she does and doesnt realize the strain on her finances. However, we spend 80% of the time hes home at the parents house. Hopefully by the time you are an adult you have been given and shown the coping skills youll need to support Yourself. All Im saying is be careful. im guessing its not going to be such a big deal, he just had no idea because you didnt say anything! In a typical family dynamic there are common roles assumed by different individuals. Sorry for the cynicism this morningits Friday and I woke up with a head cold. Maybe Im the weird one who, even if I leave work early, never seems to get home until wayyyy late. how do we divide furniture? January 20, 2012, 10:03 am. Anyway, LW, I think that first of all, youre a little premature in worrying about this to the point of writing to DWjust talk to your bf about it. The BF is emotionally (and physically) unavailable and I dont know that it will change without some sort of drastic action from the LW. I was saying you would know/discuss important things because you are in a relationship, without a business meeting atmosphere. I dont necessarily want to be the bearer of cynicism and negativity here, butI think what youre experiencing now is one of the reasons I ALWAYS advise people to move in with someone after youve been dating a significant amount of time (at least a year, in my book). Thats precisely how you might feel because you dont want your husband to not see his family at all, but does he have to every weekend? lets_be_honest You will know at that point whether or not it was a mistake to move in with him. January 20, 2012, 9:10 am. My husband likes If they are going to see his parents then I think he should pick up the tickets, especially since finances are tighter for her. I thought the same thing. AKchic Yeah thats what I thought too, that the LW doesnt have to spend every minute there. Tell him youre staying home this weekend. But Ill tell you what. Whats behind your husbands need to spend every weekend with his family? That sounds like two out of three, and maybe that was because of the holidays. Ill add that another strategy you could try if those mentioned dont work is to simply spend less time at his parents house yourself. When they were planning on adopting, I told her that if this is an issue to where she is left with baby a huge amount of time and resents him for it, its not going to be pretty. Even with stuff planned, spending time with his daughter, etc., he still prefers to spend his free time at his parents home. You dont have to spend as much time with the parents as your boyfriend does & he might reduce his own time there if youre not there with him. Just want to put my two cents in: I think its all about communicating. I agree with you. Your husband spends a lot of time with his family, but it may be justified because they need help, and it wont always be like that. FireStar Its even understandable to spend every weekend with them if someone is terminally ill (or some other similarly serious circumstance). TaraMonster if it works for you, thats all that matters. January 20, 2012, 8:02 am. GatorGirl Sometimes I think that theres something that happens around the 3-6 month mark in most relationships. I think its every weekend during the parts of the year he travels a lot, so summer and fall. The compromise that LW needs to make is to give up just going into the city on random, unplanned activities and make a plan for every weekend. At best, a season and a half. Honestly, if my only options after being away for so long are sit at home or visit with people where things are happening, I would choose the later. 2. Its sad that we put our heads in the sand, but who wants to really start over, by themselves, when your husband or wife of however many years has been cheating on you. Honestly, I think its a good thing to spend a little time apart once in a while the fact that I miss him and get excited for him to come home after a day or two away is a reminder of how much I love him and how happy I am that were living together in the first place. By the same token, I DO need to get out as well; just staying in every weekend gets old pretty fast. Although it is not mature, your husband chooses to run away from your problems in marriage to be with his family. allathian I think more people would do well to have a back-up plan if youre to break up (who moves out? Ok fine, I actually beg DWers even to move in with me (Im looking at you, rachel!). Maybe we are just really suited to each other but there really werent any bumps in the road. This is how children are taught. The LW left out the most significant part of the story which makes it pretty tough for outsiders to offer any real help. LW you seem a lot more independant than you BF, and I feel like this is just the begining of you feeling like this, so if you havent yet just have a plan to move out if things arent working out. Laura Hope But are they really guilting the boyfriend? I absolutely love his family to death, but there are some boundary issues. I really like going on dates and spending time with just you on Saturday and exploring the city, parton_doll (Which she did and he didnt do anything about it.) SpaceySteph Maybe you can offer to make dinner or get tickets to a play or museum show. Im glad you are independent but unless it is care duty his behaviour is odd to me, and Id find it hurtful were I you. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. But if that doesnt work, I think you need to accept it or move on unfortunately. The parents, being in a position of power, are influencing their adult children by complying to this routine or set up. Besides, the whole point of living in NYC is so you dont have to rely on Metro North to get int to the city on the weekends amirite!? Ugh and when girls believe their boyfriends that clearly just dont want the bang train to leave over other people it drives me crazy. maybe im misunderstanding you. I never feel like Im the priority and always in the backseat:(. I think that time alone is essential to the health of any relationship. And its not as if the family bonded during their time together; they for the most part stayed in their own rooms reading and whatnot. But come on, man! But it sounds like they like things just the way they are. It seems like this is something that would be pretty easy to compromise on. Hell appreciate her more if she starts acting a little more independently. If you want things to change, you need to be the catalyst for change. I think you should leave, but its your choice, obviously. WebGoing every weekend with a 6 hour drive is a lot, but if he feels like thats what he wants to do then he should. I think more than anything, you have to have a VERY solid foundation of good communication to have a successful live-in relationshipand this letter makes me feel, at least, that they havent been together long enough to achieve that. Maybe he is making up time for that. I am afraid for humanity. Now he plans for you two to live as close to them as possible. But it seems like they want to take things slowly. The adult children often rely heavily emotionally on the parents, depend on them to decide many or most of their decisions(particularly ones that are important), and so on. A conversation like that could end up being a red flag for HIM that you did not intend. January 20, 2012, 9:37 am. Those are two crucial things that need to be in place if youre going to spend your life with this man. I have to say, I kind of feel like LW jumped the gun on this one. Communication people. Now that they are obviously not, it is definitely time for some conversation. Lemongrass Like the other commenters have said, just communicate! He may feel he is in a much better position than his family and feels sorry for them. He feels guilty for leaving them, feels comfortable with them, or runs away from some problems he has with you. Next time he says to go to his parents for the w/end, tell hime youd rather do x or y. artsygirl Youve lived together for three weeks. Have a bbq with friends. Am I being unreasonable for not wanting to go to his parents house every weekend? Laura Hope, I totally agree with you. June 18, 2014, 11:03 am. Its different having lunch with your parents or spending a couple hours with them every weekend. I do think its a valid point to want more alone time with your significant other regardless of how hes spending the rest of their time, but I also dont see it as a dysfunctional family dynamic. Thats totally a lot. Ive been dealing with it a little bit lately, and this letter sounded kind of similar. They clearly have poor communication if she states her feelings and he minimizes and ignores them. And he was a bore. As your history with him has shown, he likes spending WebHere are potential reasons why your husband goes out every weekend without you. I always feel like I have to be a little more on at my in-laws vs at my familys house. But if its just sit on the couch at our place or theirsthats no big to me? Plus his parents never made him feel like thats what he had to be doing. Say that you enjoy spending time with his parents but you really miss your city weekends, so youd prefer to stay home except for maybe once a month. you can let things happen naturally to a certain point but after that there are times you have to have a conversation, unless you want there to be misunderstandings or assumptions made. If you are a big saver or spender, its likely your SO will just know that about you and the first time it comes up as an issue, you work it out. A lot to balancenot a lot of time spent with the fam. Blondie While he enjoys his sweet nostalgia and thinks abouthow good things used to be, you sit at home and wonder if you can handle such issues with such an immature husband. I dont go with my husband every time he sees his parents, and he doesnt come with me every time when I go see mine. Er, the mom will find a reason drop by the LWs place. No ones a bad person for saying these things (except my aunt, shes the worst and in a league of her own), but if youre someone for whom this feels like guilting, it can start making you feel so bad. Saying shes being guilted, by the time you are in a of. If he doesnt feel like doing them planned, hed break his routine, and this worked! I think what struck me is how little they seemed to have a back-up plan if youre going change. 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